Mutual knowledge doesn’t imply common knowledge. Common knowledge is a statement about not only what I know, it is about what do I know the other person knows that I know that the other person …… and so on and so forth.
Current world, men and women don’t make common knowledge about orgasm to each other. Men only know what they know, and they don’t know what women know. It is not male fault, because the key point is women don’t know what they know. I think before we reach the Nash Equilibrium of sex between men and women, we should share the common knowledge about orgasm. First thing, women must figure out what they should know, and then can do the best response.
2, Natural thing: nothing ventured, nothing gained. I prefer no pains, no gains.
The women are always passive to sex, she prefer to stay still on bed and let the man in-out on her body, and wait an orgasm happens on herself suddenly by man’s effort, not by herself. In this way, women never can get an orgasm at all, don’t they never hear no pains, no gains. The second law of thermodynamics is also applicable to the sex game. In this game, orgasm like a shudder is as your last purpose, and you should have to make your efforts to make Mechanical energy → Internal energy → Nerve energy. This is a process of quantitative change to qualitative change, Nerve energy is an orgasm as final physiological release, and it is impossible that you got 100% energy convert into nerve energy, because some caloric must be lost, not being totally converted during this game. First thing for women, you should try to focus your Mechanical energy to your right organ in your sex activity which can convert it into Nerve energy.
Find right direction, and then work hard.