I apologize in advance for any grammar mistake. This paper is dedicated to women around the world, as a New Year gift in 2011. I wish all women can get what they really want.
Breaking the mystery of female orgasm
The problems of female orgasm always trouble all people of the world, not only the female but also the male, who are all eager to figure out this incomprehensible question. So far, it is still a mystery which become intertwined with G-spot, vagina orgasm and clitoris orgasm in modern sexology, and there have not been any qualitative conclusion on this topic, although too many scholars like psychologists, physiologists, anatomists, sociologists have studied in the female orgasm through theory, experiments, investigation and questionnaires, since Freud in the 19th century, but it is still ambiguous. In recent decades, female sexual dysfunction has received growing national attention. Fortunately, people have reached an agreement that orgasm is a normal function as sexual beings whatever men or women. Here I show what exactly the female orgasm is and what differences and similarities between the men and women in orgasm. I propose a new point of view to query the traditional views about G-spot, ejaculation from urethra and multiple orgasms during a sex, hard to ejaculation for female, so called female orgasm. Finally, I conclude that female can ejaculation as same as male, but not as previously reported. I also believe that my findings have an important significance to all women.
The most controversial issue which is the core of the problem is whether female orgasm exists. Before answering this question, we should figure out what exactly the orgasm is. As human beings, let’s look at the definition about male orgasm. Almost all of the men said that orgasm is ejaculating a spurt of fluid out of body at the last moment. For many preceding centuries, there was widespread belief that ejaculation is a unique privilege to males, not to females. In contrast to the unanimous conclusion about male orgasm, there have been a lot of various statements to female orgasm. Many women have emphasized that the experiences of orgasm is significant importance in their sexual lives, and how much they love this feelings, but no one can express the feelings in orgasm clearly. Compared with the unanimous male orgasm, why are there too many different types about female orgasm? This is mainly because mostly women don’t obtain the orgasm, and they just get the pleasure during a sex. Pleasure depends on lots of subjective factors, maybe you have different feelings because of different time and mood, but orgasm which is objective event as a physiological phenomenon certainly has an inherent rhythm not controlled by human feelings. Now I can answer the question before, not only the answer is absolutely positive, but women can also ejaculate as easy as men. Next I explain the details of the female orgasm in chronological order to clarify the differences and similarities between male and female.
Foreplay, this is the most common word in the study of female orgasm. Obviously, mostly men think about sex at 15-second intervals, but mostly women think having a sex is a chore and they never initiate sex with her partner. So all people whatever men or women think that the males don’t need foreplay, it just belongs to the females, furthermore the longer the better. But that is not the case what you think. When your senses are stimulated by something like porn films or fictions, you will have physiological responses and feel nerve throbbing on your vulva. There is a huge area of nerve endings and nerve conduction system, first stimulated by visual or auditory then through the afferent nerve system to brain, finally affects your genital area by the efferent nerve system, it can just happened less than 1 second fastest. Additionally there will be some liquid secretions from your vagina if you feel very intensely, but it is not a necessary condition to achieve orgasm. It is essential that you should be excited and want to ejaculate subjectively. Most women don’t feel this because they never have a real orgasm before, and as time goes by they lose this normal physiological function. This is the first and primitive obstacle to prevent female from ejaculating. To be honest it’s really hard to change.
When you have a physiological reaction, you want ejaculation to satisfy yourselves. All people have reached a consensus that the male orgasm needs a series of continuing stimulations, until they ejaculate to achieve the orgasm, but female orgasm can be an intermittent and multiple orgasms during a sex. I state that this is a completely and totally wrong conclusion. This so called female multiple orgasms are not a real orgasm, is just series of pleasure. The real orgasm for female is also that way needed continuing stimulations until ejaculation, and then the feelings spreads every place in your body like an electric current, during that accompanied by the heart acceleration and body relaxation. Women should slow it down to let your nerve take a break, if you do not want to ejaculate too fast. This way may extend your time, but I don’t think it is necessary. Only the last about 10 seconds during ejaculation have significance in a sex, not only for males but also for females, and what you have done before is all for the feelings of the last ejaculating. I don't think there is a phenomenon called premature ejaculation for males. You will ejaculate fast, if you have strong reaction to the sex stimulations, because your nerves in that area are too particularly sensitive to ejaculate. The reason why have this premature ejaculation disease, depends on that women need a very long time to achieve orgasm, women are unable to achieve vaginal orgasm because their partner can not maintain arousal long enough to bring them to orgasm. But unfortunately these premises are not tenable. Women can also ejaculate quickly maybe just in 1 or 2 minutes or less, if you have the right way to stimulate. This awkward situation all thanks to Freud, the father of psycho-analysis, make people to believe that vaginal orgasms were what mature women had, while clitoral orgasms were what immature women had. His theory classified female orgasm as clitoral orgasm and vaginal orgasm (G-spot), but up to now, the G-spot is not corroborated by any anatomical evidence in modern sexology, maybe it does never had existed, I don’t know I guess, maybe it’s just an imagination. Who can stand up and say what it like when she has the vaginal orgasm? On the contrary, the clitoral orgasm does exist indeed, and it can lead to ejaculating for every time. More time is all in vain, if you don't know where is correct to be stimulated. Where the fluid from, is another misunderstanding for female orgasm. According to the previous literature, all papers said that the fluids are to be ejaculating from urethra. That because people saw the girls in porn who squirt a lot of fluid from urethra, so they think female orgasm is ejaculating from urethra. But the truth is not as you wish again, and eyes always lie. In fact it is from the vagina not urethra, when female is in ejaculating. It does not squirt so much fluid like the males, but you can really feel something out of your vagina during your last about 10 seconds in your ejaculation. What you saw in the porn expelled through the urethra is totally urine. The women are incontinent, because of the hit in a sex and her bladders are squeezed. What the fluids expelled through the vagina look like? Yellow? Watery? No. It is colorless, odorless and viscous liquid less than 1ml, maybe you can just only use toilet paper to dry. But it definitely not looks like urine at all, yellowish and watery. Women always keep moaning from beginning to end in porn, but the fact is that the female moan incontinently just in last ejaculating like the male.
After ejaculating, most of men will lose the passion to their partners immediately and they roll over to go to sleep quickly. What happened to women after having a sex - dissatisfied, complaints or go back to do some housework acting like nothing happened? Why is there so different between men and women after sex. The only reason is women didn't have a real orgasm at all. A woman also falls asleep in seconds and loses the passion to her partner immediately like a man, if she has a real orgasm. After one orgasm, the females also must have a so-called "rest period"; they become unresponsive to sexual stimulation and cannot get into another excitement phase until some period of time has elapsed. The length of "rest period" depends on many things, such as age, health and individual sexual desire, etc, it needs a few minutes shortest or a couple of days longest. So men and women both reach orgasms at the same time in one session is impossible. Women should stop the illusion immediately ejaculation together with men or you will be a receptacle forever. Who wants to ejaculate, and who must control the rhythm. A woman will also get some symptoms like frequency and urgency of micturition, and soreness of waist, after she ejaculates frequently. She couldn't ejaculate anymore, after 6 or 7 times ejaculation frequency, but she will recover after having a rest 1 or 2 weeks. Obviously, the kidney plays an important role not only in male orgasm but also in female orgasm. Why? Sorry I don’t know.
Why does female orgasm as a normal physiological function perplex so many women for so many years? The fundamental reason is everyone pays attention to the vagina and they believe that male obtain orgasm through the female vagina, female should also get orgasm through the male penis. In fact, everyone ignored an important organ - the two small balls, located inside the labia majora, one on each side, touches like about 0.3 cm in diameter. Many women do not know them, even anatomists neglect them neither. Why? It is not hard to find. I don’t know why so many year no one can find them. First, the balls are hidden inside, not exposed outside like male testicles. Second, according to use and disuse theory, most women never use their function, and they are atrophic little by little. Finally and important thing, in a male-dominated world, men don’t think women have a same homologue in her body, and women don’t believe they can be like men, because they have become admirers of the male penis. You will feel them obviously, when you are excited enough and want to ejaculation eagerly. Maybe both sides are not in the same big. This finding will be the strongest evidence to subvert all the previous theories about female orgasm. Maybe there are lamps in my body, but I don’t think so. I am kidding to myself.
Women will stop to say that all men are the sex animals which think about using their penis every time, when all women can ejaculate easily. Women will know why the pornography is so unfailing, when they can ejaculate easily. That is a simple theory: love is love, sex is sex. You should love his/her soul, when you are falling love with somebody, whatever the age, race, gender, or religion, these all should not be a problem, but sex is just about 10 seconds for the only purpose of the ejaculation, and there is no relationship between love and sex. Besides the relationship between love and sex, I should clarify some other misconceptions. Firstly, the relationship between menstruation and ejaculation, in my opinion, they are not directly related. Women also can ejaculate as same as usual in their menstrual period and the only consequence is that you will be bleeding through vagina a few days in the ovulation period, if you ejaculate in your menstrual period. Secondly, the relationship between urination and ejaculation, frankly speaking, I do not think there is a direct relationship between them, maybe little indirect. Many women described their experiences of ejaculation they have to pee on her partners, when they ejaculate. That is a totally mistake. The female can not urinate at all, when you are aroused, until completing ejaculation. You will ejaculate fast, if you hold the urine not to pee, on the contrary, you will ejaculate slowly, if you urinate before sex. Whatever, you should always urinate after ejaculating, but you can not pee so strongly as usual, because of your ejaculation just now. The reason I don’t know. Finally, we talk about the relationship between reproduction and ejaculation. The female has played an important role in reproduction, and they provide their vagina just as a receptacle to the men, and then they give a birth to new life, but they ignore to enjoy the real orgasm of ejaculation. Because women can get pregnant without ejaculation, sorry I can’t figure out why and I just guess there should be something in the fluid, it must be.
This paper leads us into the mysterious castle of female orgasm, which previously we are just always around and looking for whether there is a door. However, we only just opened the door of this ancient castle, and there are many things we do not know and wait us to discover, e. g. the composition of the liquid, whether fluid contains female germ cells like sperm in semen, some other genital organs still unknown, the existence of female prostate, the mechanism of female ejaculation, how the nerve conduction during ejaculating etc, and maybe ejaculation can make women against from diseases of breast cancer, uterine cancer or menopause syndrome. These are the secrets hidden in the castle, waiting us to expose one by one. This is a great project, not only for scientists to research, but also for the all world people to confront. Anything in the universe has its own laws, but some is not a clear understanding of our humanity, The 19th century, people put up this question of female orgasm, the 20th century, people have been intertwined for a whole century, then to the 21st century, let us try our best to get the truth back.
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