A New Female Sexual Response Model

Recently, a friend of mine from Portugal gave me some advice about my new theory of female orgasm, although what he said are more platitude and useless, but he indeed gave me some clues about female sexual response model. I check on the internet for all about female sexual response models, and there are three in all.

1, Linear Model by Masters and Johnson in 1966

2, Circular Model by Beverly Whipple and Brash-McGreer in 1997

3, Non-linear Model by Basson R

I analyze advantages and disadvantages of these three models one by one and finally construct my own female sexual response model. Excuse my rudeness, and I don't mean to offend anyone, just for the sake of discussion.

Linear Model (Masters and Johnson in 1966)

Advantages: They proposed this Linear model of sexual response for both men and women and assumed that men and women have similar sexual responses. Their assumption is absolute correct, but unfortunately the later generations completely deny this and consequently make the female orgasm as a mystery for decades.

Disadvantages: 1, Linear Model denies the uniqueness of female orgasm and believes the different responses different women may have or an individual woman may have on different occasions. I wonder how they get such a conclusion, since they already assume that men and women have similar sexual responses. Do they also believe that an individual man may have different sexual response pattern? The conclusion they got to the assumption they proposed is a paradox.

  

                         2, they think orgasm for women is an occasional occurrence and Beverly Whipple helps them to explain that women may not even experience all of the phases-for example, they may move from sexual arousal to orgasm and satisfaction without experiencing sexual desire, or they can experience desire, arousal, and satisfaction but not orgasm. This explanation is a bigger mistake. Female sexual response if without orgasm is not complete. Women are just as a sex tool, if they can’t experience orgasm during every sex. Does she believe that orgasm for men can also be an occasional occurrence? Nonsense!!!

                       3, this model is an ideal model, and don't consider the environmental factors, so  Masters and Johnson don't add the concept of distraction and circulation to this model.

                       4, The Refractory period is not reflected on the curve. Of course they never expect that female also have refractory period. They didn’t mention the repulsion between two orgasms, no matter in one person, or in two persons. A person can not get two orgasms at the same time, and two persons can’t get their own orgasms from each other at the same time.

Circular Model (Beverly Whipple and Brash-McGreer in 1997)

Advantages: They add the concept of circulation to the model.

Disadvantages: Circulation of this model shows how pleasure and satisfaction during one sexual experience can lead to the seduction phase of the next sexual experience. This Sentence itself is not wrong, but this circulation is built on a wrong foundation, which considers women can get multiple orgasms during one intercourse. This is the biggest mistake. Only a complete sexual experience with orgasm can lead women to the next sexual desire, of course must after refractory period. Women never have the ability to get multiple orgasms, and Beverly’ wrong view mislead people to a wrong direction.

Non-linear Model (Basson R)

Advantages: Except the circulation, this model proposes other two important concepts: physical satisfaction (orgasm) and emotional satisfaction (a feeling of intimacy and connection with a partner).

Disadvantages: Basson clarifies that the goal of sexual activity for women is not necessarily orgasm but rather personal satisfaction. His argument completely strangles the importance of orgasm and overestimates emotional satisfaction and intimacy during sexual life for women. He seriously ignores physical satisfaction (orgasm) is also irreplaceable for women as same as men. I want to ask all males: do you think intimacy can replace orgasm in your sex? I think all answers are negative. If push males to pick the one from the two, I bet they all choose the orgasm, not intimacy, of course men want them both. Frankly speaking, men are already lucky enough compared to women, because so far women don’t figure out the two options.

The three models are not accurate to describe the real female sexual response, I construct a new model, and let me illustrate in details.

Firstly, I should pronounce that every woman can respond to sexual stimulation as same as every man, although there is no exact same sexual response between any two individuals, but the basic pattern is shared by all human beings, regardless of gender. This mode is not only for women, but also for all human being. In order to describe the sexual response accurately, I add the concept of the flow chart to my model, the green lines represent the whole process of sexual response.

During T₁, at the beginning, human is in daily life, and the sexual response level is in normal and not aroused yet.

During T₂, frankly speaking, desire depends on the body's instincts. A view of Beverly Whipple (satisfaction during one sexual experience can lead to the seduction phase of the next sexual experience) was right, but the problem is women never get satisfaction without orgasm, that is why women think sex is a chore, and why men always initiate sex with women but women don't, and why men think about sex every 15 seconds but women can't. I bet women will also think about sex every 10 seconds, if every time women can have orgasm.

 

During T3, in short, this is a preparation process. When a woman has the desire and wants to put it into practice, she needs someone or something to hook her up in physical. Many things can make women have excitement, such as smell, voice, words and porn. At this time, psychological factors play a decisive role in this phase and the fantasies are really helpful, then body starts to have some changes. The most obvious sign of sexual excitement in the male is the erection of his penis, and the most obvious sign of sexual excitement in female is lubrication of the vagina, but all people ignore the other important sign in female - erection of clitoral shaft. The length of T3 is related to your age, physical condition, and how urgency. When women are very young and good health, T3→0.

        Of course we can put T2 and T3 together. When women get aroused suddenly by an accident someone or something very special, T23→0. Women can feel distension and nerve beating of clitoral right way, and then can’t move legs anymore. She should only just stand there, until the strong feelings gone, and then she comes back to the normal level T1. When women already in T23, but she thinks it is not the right time to do this things or she is distracted by something or someone, she can give up the original plan and comes back to the normal, of course she can repeat it again during T23 itself.

        During T4, this is a brewing process. When woman's physical and psychological are ready, she is going to take action. She will twist ass unconsciously and squeeze the clitoral shaft with a proper rhythm and power. Fantasies also play a decisive role here. At the beginning of phase plateau, the slope of the curve is approximately zero, but as the acceleration of the movement, the slope rapidly becomes larger. The curve quickly gets high, and this time she feels her body almost out of her control, and she must stop to squeeze the clitoral and have a break, if she doesn’t want to orgasm quickly. She stops for a while or Change position to make the curve back to the beginning of phase plateau or T23, of course, she can come back to the normal, but it is so hard for her. When she finds the game is enough and wants to get the last shudder of climax, she can’t stop and should continue to accelerate and accelerate more and more, then she orgasms. The length of T4 is related to your age, physical condition and how long you orgasm the last time. Women also need longer to orgasm than the last time, if she gets several orgasms during one night. Be careful, Very serious consequences.

        During T5 and T6, both of them are very short. When she enters the orgasm mode, she can’t stop any longer, until done it. This process is irreversible. Orgasm almost lasts about 7 seconds, and the curve during T6 falls down instantaneously, then after that women fall into sleep immediately. The most visible physiological change during this period is the loss of erection of clitoral shaft.

        During T7, women enter the refractory period, and she loses her all interests about sex immediately and just need to sleep. In this phase, she can’t get aroused and the capability to another erection or another orgasm. She couldn't concentrate her attention any more, even though she doesn’t have the conditions to sleep, until this period of time has elapsed. Women just come back to normal, and have the capability to get into another sex again.The refractory period may be very short in some individuals, especially while they are young, but it usually becomes longer with advancing age.
 

Porn can not be banned forever, because the fantasies are really helped for everyone.

A lot of my female colleagues around me are very curious why their husbands like to watch porn so much, and these women really can’t figure out how fun it is. When I told them I also like to watch porn, they all got big surprise and give me a strange look like I am a freaky girl. That scene made me very embarrassed, because I don’t know what I can explain and how I can explain. I only can keep silent.

    I think this question not only plagued my female colleagues around me, but also all women around the world. They think watching naked flesh makes them some kind of queasy, and they all advocate porn should be banned from the internet.

    I don’t think so. I think porn can not be banned forever, because the fantasies are really helped for everyone. I believe that every adult man has seen porn and often saw, whether Presidents, Prime Ministers, or Civilian. Maybe they don’t love to see it, but they need to see it. That is the human nature. In my view watching porn is a highly cost-effective thing, when you want to orgasm and release yourself. Orgasm is not simple physiological functions like eat, drink or something, it contains complex nerve conduction. First, subjectively you need an orgasm to release yourself. Second, in order to complete orgasm, you need to find an objective to arouse your sexual organs. Porn is useful now. You can use visual stimulation to let you have physiological responses. This is the most direct and highly cost-effective way. Finally, when you are ready, you can masturbate or find someone to orgasm.

    Why don’t women understand men like to see porn? Only one reason: women can’t get orgasm at all. I know there are many women out against what I said, but unfortunately I am right. Give you a very simple example: Woman's status is as same as the French wine in China. You know why the French wine are almost all counterfeit in China? Two reasons: First, also most important reason, Chinese people never never have drink real French wine, of course they can’t distinguish between genuine or counterfeit. Second, face is a concept of central importance because of its pervasive influence in interpersonal relations among Chinese, and the drinking French wine attach too much importance to 'face', people don’t want to expose it, if when they find some thing wrong with the French wine they drink. These two reasons are also applied to women for the female orgasm. Women don’t have an idea about female orgasm, they don’t even know what the female orgasm is, how to get orgasm. When I watch the porn, my attention is very focused, because I know I need some changes in myself. After a while, I can feel I am wet, of course it is not a necessary condition, but important thing I can feel my nerves jumping in my clitoral shaft, that feeling is very strong and with heart resonance sometimes. That is my physiological responses, I can’t help it. Then I am ready to orgasm I know that. I only have to waste about 1 minute to squeeze my clitoral shaft to get about 10 seconds shudder of climax. That is it.

    Porn will never disappear, people really need it. Some countries under the cover name of anti-pornography have strict controls on the internet and establish the Great Firewall, and they have only one purpose: maintain their tyranny and dictatorship. It is time to wake up.

Unlocking the mystery of female orgasm will be the last straw that broke the same-sex marriage illegal.

Today, there are more and more countries recognize same-sex marriage relationship, the homosexuality is legally recognized in Argentina, Belgium, Canada, Iceland, the Netherlands, Norway, Portugal, South Africa, Spain, and Sweden. In the United States, same-sex marriages are not recognized federally, though same-sex couples can marry in six states and one district. But compared with more than 200 countries and regions around the world, there is too little. The following figures are all provided by Wiki.

    This figure clearly shows that the countries which recognize same-sex marriage legal are concentrated in Western Europe and the Americas where human rights and democracy are very advanced. In many countries from Asia and Africa, the governments don’t only recognize same-sex marriage legal, but sanction the same-sex relationships. It essentially illustrates that the Universal values of Western (peace, freedom, social progress, equal, rights and human dignity) need a long fight with Asian values (dictatorships and authoritarian) and African values (tribal culture).

    It is inconceivable that the federal government does not recognize same-sex marriage in the United States, who prides itself on being the most advanced, most free, most democratic. In this area, the U.S. does fall behind Europe. I think President Obama still have so many important issues to reform, except the economic and health care reform. I believe the institution of marriage is a union not only between one man and one woman. I sincerely hope that the United States can set an example for all people around the world to bring them the real human rights and democracy.

    In fact, it is very simple to judge the legality of same-sex marriage. The only one important thing is what the essence of marriage is or why two people want to get married. We should figure this out before we judge the same-sex marriage legal or illegal. In my opinion, the essence of marriage is: sex, love and commitment. If two individuals have these three things, they will be able to get married, whatever heterosexual or homosexual. About the love and promise, I think no one would deny that the same sex can have love and commitment to each other. So far we are not sure what exactly make two people love each other-Similarity or complementarity? On this issue, Nature has spoken: Same-sex loving' is common in hundreds of species and nearly all animal species exhibit same-sex behavior- from worms to frogs to birds -making the practice nearly universal among animals. I think the principle (the same-sex repulsion, opposites attract) can’t be applied to living animals. There is only one obstacle left to legality of same-sex marriage- sexual act. In different eras, cultures, and religions, homosexual behavior has been tolerated, punished, or banned, and they think the same sex behavior is a sin and some kind of shame. But when you jump out of the religion, you should know first what the purpose the sexual behavior is, only for reproduction? No, I don’t think so. I think not every sexual behavior has a reproductive function. Bingo! Every man knows the answer: sex behavior only has one purpose-orgasm, but unfortunately women don’t know that yet. The fact is the fact, whatever you know it or not. About orgasm, everybody knows that there is no male orgasm obstacle, and a male can get orgasm from whomever male or female, whatever use mouth or anus or any other parts of body. But female orgasm remains an evolutionary mystery so far. There are too many conjectures about female orgasm since Freud to Kinsey. Unfortunately, the conjecture is just conjecture, not the fact, and no one get the real answer to this mystery, and scientists continue to go along the wrong way.

    I am trying to correct this mistake and give the real fact of female orgasm to all people around the world, maybe there have a long way to go, maybe I need to pay a huge cost, but I do not fear, because I am a woman, I have an obligation and responsibility to tell the truth to all women of the world. I just feel very very isolated, and maybe I am destined to be lonely all my life. I hope not.

    One day, when the truth about female orgasm has come to light, when women can easily reach orgasm as same as men, I think there will be more and more countries and regions will support same-sex marriage. Unlocking the mystery of female orgasm will be the last straw that broke the same-sex marriage illegal. Only for one reason: orgasm is just shudder of climax whatever for a man or a woman, it will not be changed by anything or anybody homosexual or heterosexual.

    In one word: Nothing can stop two people fall in love with each other get married, even if they are the same sex.