2013年3月22日星期五

Who am I?



Today, I donate 50 RMB to Wiki, and this is my first time donation willingly. I used to, but all forced, either cut by my institute or by others' eyes. I just want to be myself.

The reason of today’ donation is very simple that I want Wiki alive, independently alive from any power. I feel very very happy that I can help someone else who really needs a help, it is like I helped a handsome black guy to put his bike in front of the bus in Tampa. I feel a sense of well-being, it comes from my deep inside. I have to admit my American trip gives me a lot of things, my mind is more open-minded, and I consider some farther things, even though I can’t get a consensus on the problem of female orgasm with West yet.

I am not going to tell anyone about my donation, including my Mon, because they will think I am out of my mind. In other eyes, I am a lonely, withdrawn and no-friends girl, even I don’t want waste any money or time to present colleague’s wedding.

No one can understand me at all.

2013年2月1日星期五

Rape, we can not evade the reality.



To be honest, I don’t want to talk about this topic, because I think it is too cruel for poor women. I also asked Beverly about her opinion on this issue, but she prevaricate me with an excuse as she didn’t do any research on whether female can get orgasm or not, when they suffered a rape. Recently, this issue drew people's attention again, because of India gang rape. A 17-year-old girl in India committed suicide by drinking poison on Wednesday, following a gang rape by at least three men back in November. According to CNN, the girl was allegedly gang raped on November 13, during the Hindu festival of Diwali. This anonymous girl’s death is a stunning blow just a week after a 23-year-old woman was viciously gang raped on a bus in New Delhi.

I am so shocked by so low status of women in India, even though I am also in a country which is patriarchal as same as India. After the shock and anger, I am lost in deep thought why India became like this, which was ever a great nation with the most splendid civilization of the world. When we open the history, we can’t avoid a topic - British colonial. In Chinese history books, our great, glory correct party, of course, contributed the root cause of the backwardness to the west colonial rule, but I hold a different opinion. The United States was once a British colony, but in many ways she is beyond the mother and becomes the boss of the world now. Talk about Asian, I am a Chinese, but I can’t deny the British contribution over 100 years of colonial in Hong Kong history. There is no denying that if there is no British colonial rule, HK would not be this like today. But why it is so different in India? Indian society is still so confused after over 190 years colonial rule by British. Why?

Apparently, the colonist is a big deal reason, but the root is not the colonial rule. After the WW2, at first, four countries were planning for the occupation of Japan; it involved the division of Japan into four occupation zones. The Soviet forces would occupy Hokkaido the northern island and Honshu down to about the level of Sendai. The Americans would occupy almost all of the rest of Honshu. The Chinese would occupy the island of Shikoku and the British were to occupy the island of Kyushu. However, the British first said that's too far, and Chinese set army go to the north but for civil war, and Soviet want to occupy but U.S. don’t let it do. The final results is only United States dominate Japan. Undoubtedly Japan is lucky, if the United States and the Soviet share the occupation of Japan, I am sure today the situation in Japan is north Japan and south Japan, meanwhile the Chinese people are not so lucky. So I think colonist is important, but not critical.



All dictators are not willing to quit the stage of history, right? Wherever in Libya, Syria, North Korea or China. That a nation wants to get strong must depends on the awakening of national consciousness. National Consciousness governs the government. The quality of government depends upon the quality of the national consciousness. It is as same as female status depends on female consciousness, and the improvement of female status must rely on awakening of female consciousness in all aspects. I think awakening of sex consciousness is the most important one.

 

In fact, the problem of rape is not so difficult to solve. First of all, we must have a clear understanding of the rape and what is the nature of rape and why rape is so widespread in human beings. In my opinion, rape is just one of violent crimes, and rape can divide into non-marital rape and marital rape. Until today, there are still some arguments about marital rape, but I think it is also rape, as long as against to this premise of voluntary, no matter in a marriage or not, no matter during same sex or not. Since rape is not a random event, there must be some reasons in human nature out of male control. According to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, sex belongs to the first level-physiological, so I think we must know this point very clearly that sex is very important as same as breathing, food and water. I quite agree with Maslow's theory, because when we want to change a prevalent thing, we must have to know the root reason for that..

 


When I lived in hostels in U.S., people there always like to ask me about female infant abortion in China. Why do Chinese people want boys not girls? It is simple to explain that female infant abortion only reflects the low social status of women in China. When a society relies on violence to maintain social order, every one is not stupid and of course prefers boys to girls, because obviously, males take absolute more advantage in physical strength than females. In Northern or Western Europe with highly legalized countries, males don’t have an absolute advantage in society, every game has its rule, and every one should play by rules, no matter male or female. Of course people there don’t to choose female infants abortion. Frankly speaking, in biology female play more roles in genetics, because only female organelles can be passed to next generation, and meanwhile male almost pass nothing on about organelles except just only 23 pairs of Chromosomes.

 

As the same logic, we must recognize that sex for men is a necessity as same as food or water. Then next problem is how we guide them to release their libido. I think a good government should establish proper rules of this sex game, and on one hand, we have a way to let male release, and on the other hand, we must protect female rights.

 

First, prostitution should be legalized. Not only is the heterosexual sex service should legitimate, but also homosexual sex service should be legitimate.

 

We must be clear on this point that the existence of prostitution is definitely not the result of the low status of women. The nature of prostitution is just a deal. One side provides the body, such as vagina, mouth or anus, to the other side, in order to get survival necessities back. The other side provides survival necessities, such as money or something else, in order to get her cooperation back on sex. Based on this, the two sides should have a contract, under the premise of equal and voluntary, and then this game will become a win-win game, both sides can benefit from it. I do think that the prostitution legalization will reduce the rate of sex crimes. In this area, Dutch and Germany are the models of other countries.

 

Second, make a harsh law to increase the cost of sex crime. The reason of so high sex crime rates in India is because the rapists don’t have to pay much price for violence of rape. Every rapist is not stupid, when the spur of the moment contrary to freedom, survival or lose the ability of orgasm in the rest of life, I believe they will make rational choice.

 

How do we define marriage? What is the true meaning of marriage? Why does it only belong to our human beings? It is very common that sexual behavior happened during all sexual reproduction animals, but why they didn’t get into a marriage, including our closest relative chimpanzees. So we can see that marriage is absolutely not just sex. I agree that marriage is a series of compromises, but I don’t stand on the side of David Buss. According to his theory, the nature of every woman is a prostitute. The only difference between them is that prostitutes get resources for survival from different males, while the wives obtain resources only from a male, but the natures are same.

What is the nature of monogamy? It is just a compromise between males, not for the interests of females. In ancient times, the premise they can practice polygamy is endless war, and most of males need to die on the battlefield, as the result is a large number of males without a wife were rebels. In order to maintain their rule, the rulers have to sacrifice on the number of female sex slavery. Essentially, the emergence of monogamy is just a political necessity. From the point of females, no talking about feelings, monogamy is disadvantage for women. So far we can’t deny that women are still in the weak position, comparison with males, in the world. Monogamy means many women can’t get resources for living from elite males through a legal marriage, while they have to seek refuge from inferior males, right? The same cost that they provide their vagina to someone for orgasm, but monogamy makes women get less.

So go back to that question what is nature of marriage. If you say sex, I think a male can marry a male, because orgasm is not barrier between them; if you say reproduction, I think we should act as non-human animals’ polygamy, because a elite male can fertilize many women he want; if you say there is a real G-spot in female vagina, I think there is no rape at all. You can imagine that I am male, and I am very good at vagina penetration, and I can give every woman orgasm through my penetration, does that mean I can rape every woman on the world? It is ridiculous, right? Absurd logic. But those self-righteous people can’t see it. If you do think so, you can’t judge those rapists, because they can say that “I gave the woman who I raped multiple orgasms, why do you rest me? ”

Frankly speaking, before the unlocking the mystery of female orgasm, marriage is just a tool under a legal cloak that male takes sex dictatorship to female with. Only one day a woman can get out of the vicious circle of reproduction, male and female can stand on an equal balance to explore both interests.

The truth is always cruel and ugly, right?


2013年1月24日星期四

Movie “Desert Flower”



Recently, I saw a female movie “desert flower” about female genital mutilation in Somalia. This movie is based on the bestselling novel by Waris Dirie, who was circumcised in 5 years old. It really made me into deep grief, especially at last scene Waris cried in the speech, I can’t stop crying. Female genital mutilation has been practiced in some form or other for several thousand years. Today this horrible tradition is still practiced in many countries around the world today – by both by Moslems and Christians. According to records kept by the United Nations more than 6000 girls become victims of this heinous crime every day.

The causes of female genital mutilation include a mix of cultural, religious and social factors within families and communities. It is a very older phenomenon. FGM is considered by its practitioners to be an essential part of raising a girl properly—girls are regarded as having been cleansed by the removal of "male" body parts. It ensures pre-marital virginity and inhibits extra-marital sex, because it reduces women's libido. Women fear the pain of re-opening the vagina, and are afraid of being discovered if it is opened illicitly.

Actually, this is my second time to talk about female genital mutilation. I asked Beverly about her opinion of female circumcision, but she let me down again. She told me many of the women have sexual pleasure and orgasm after female genital mutilation. OMFG, I don’t know how many bombs I need to put into her ears to wake her up. If we want to figure out the FGM, we must talk about MGM, Circumcision and Castration together, because people are deceived by the similar definition.

1, FGM
Female genital mutilation (FGM) is defined by the World Health Organization (WHO) as "all procedures that involve partial or total removal of the external female genitalia, or other injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons." The WHO has offered four classifications of FGM. (From Wiki)
Type I: removal of the clitoral hood, almost invariably accompanied by removal of the clitoris itself (clitoridectomy).
Type II: removal of the clitoris and inner labia.
Type III (infibulation): removal of all or part of the inner and outer labia, and usually the clitoris, and the fusion of the wound, leaving a small hole for the passage of urine and menstrual blood—the fused wound is opened for intercourse and childbirth.
Type IV: several miscellaneous acts are categorized as Type IV. These range from a symbolic pricking or piercing of the clitoris or labia, to cauterization of the clitoris, cutting into the vagina to widen it (gishiri cutting), and introducing corrosive substances to tighten it.
In my short opinion, FGM is a removal of the clitoris and some other things.




Around 85 percent of women who undergo FGM experience Types I and II, and 15 percent Type III, though Type III is the most common procedure in several countries, including Sudan, Somalia, and Djibouti.

2, MGM
Male genital mutilation (MGM), often referred to as 'male circumcision', comprises all procedures involving partial or total removal of the external male genitalia or other injury to the male genital organs whether for cultural, religious or other non-therapeutic reasons. (From Wiki)

Types of MGM


Type I - excision or injury of part or all of the skin and specialized mucosal tissues of the penis including the prepuce and frenulum (circumcision, dorsal slit without closure).

Type II - excision or injury to the glans (glandectomy) and/or penis shaft, (penectomy) along with Type I MGM. Any procedure that interferes with reproductive or sexual function in the adult male.
Type III - excision or destruction of the testes (castration, orchidectomy) with or without Type II MGM.
Type IV - unclassified: includes pricking, piercing or incision of the prepuce, glans, scrotum or other genital tissue; cutting and suturing of the prepuce over the glans (infibulation); slitting open the urethra along the ventral surface of the penis (sub-incision); slitting open the foreskin along its dorsal surface (super-incision); severing the frenulum; stripping the skin from the shaft of the penis; introducing corrosive or scalding substances onto the genital area; any other procedure which falls under the definition of MGM given above.
The most common type of male genital mutilation is excision of the foreskin (circumcision), accounting for the vast majority of all cases; the most extreme form is excision or destruction of the testes (castration), which constitutes a small percentage of all procedures.

3, Circumcision
Let us have a look at male circumcision.
Male circumcision (from Latin circumcidere, meaning "to cut around") is the surgical removal of the foreskin (prepuce) from the human penis. In a typical procedure, the foreskin is opened and then separated from the glans after inspection. The circumcision device (if used) is placed, and then the foreskin is removed. Topical or locally injected anesthesia may be used to reduce pain and physiologic stress. For adults, general anesthesia is an option, and the procedure is often performed without a specialized circumcision device. Circumcision may be indicated for both therapeutic and prophylactic reasons. It is a treatment option for phimosis, balanoposthitis, and chronic urinary tract infections (UTIs). (From Wiki)





In my opinion, we should distinguish circumcision from genital mutilation. Genital mutilation, whatever for female or male, is very different from circumcision essentially, but people are just confused by the two different conception. In short, circumcision is just the removal of some skin of glans or clitoris, but genital mutilation is the removal of the main genital body.

First start from male, then expand to female. Male Circumcision is just a removal of the foreskin which glans covered by, in order to let glans exposed to the air, but male genital mutilation is cutting the male main body, such as testis or whole penis or glans. In my idea, genital mutilation is totally castration, whatever for female or male. Next we must have a look at castration.

4, Castration
Castration (also referred to as gelding, neutering, fixing, orchiectomy, oophorectomy) is any action, surgical, chemical, or otherwise, by which a male loses the functions of the testicles or a female loses the functions of the ovaries. (From Wiki)
The practice of castration has its roots before recorded human history. In ancient times, castration often involved the total removal of all the male genitalia. This involved great danger of death due to bleeding or infection and, in some states, such as the Byzantine Empire, was seen as the same as a death sentence. Removal of only the testicles had much less risk.
In my short opinion, male castration is a removal testicles, or whole genitalia.

Chemical castration
In recent years, due to too many sexual crimes happened, the chemical castration drew people's attention.
Chemical castration is the administration of medication designed to reduce libido and sexual activity. Unlike surgical castration, where the testicles or ovaries are removed through an incision in the body, chemical castration does not actually castrate the person, nor is it a form of sterilization. When used on men, these drugs can reduce sex drive, compulsive sexual fantasies, and capacity for sexual arousal. Chemical castration is generally considered reversible when treatment is discontinued.

Next, we look at their sex ability, according to some researches, some are cut off the testicles, some are chemical castrated, and some are cut off the whole penis.
At first, a man who has been castrated will still have a sexual urge. Over time, however, because he's no longer producing testosterone, he'll lose much of his libido or sexual desire. Medications can readjust the chemicals in his blood and bring back some sexual desire. Studies have also been done that show with increased stimulation, a castrated man can actually get an erection, have sex, and orgasm (although ejaculate which would be minimal in volume and not contain any sperm). According to one study from the 1960s of about 1,000 German sex offenders who had been castrated, 65 percent men immediately felt their libido plummet, but 18 percent were able to have sex 20 years later.

A man who has been chemical castrated said that “The only prospective I can give is long term chemical castration. My hormones are at castrate levels. I can still get an erection and ejaculate. But it's much more up to her, and being with her. There's no interest in an erection when I'm alone. I can only have 'normal sex' once or twice a week. This all varies from male to male. In a large percentage of men the ability to have an erection is gone after 1 to 5 years; in some its matter of days. The younger you are when your castrated the more likely you are to be able to perform the following years unless you were castrated before puberty.”

In my short opinion, the purpose of castration, whatever removal testicles or chemical castration, is to prevent sex hormone secretion in male body, in order to reduce male libido or sexual desire, but male also can get an erection, have sex, and orgasm. What if the penis is cut off? Do you hear someone who is cut off penis can get orgasm? Of course not. So the key important problem is, in biology, female clitoris and male penis are homologous.

 



You don’t believe eunuchs in Chinese old history can orgasm, do you? Frankly speaking, cutting female clitoris is as same as cutting male penis. Maybe female have sex desire, because the ovary is still there which also can release sex hormones, but female have to suffer much more sex torture than eunuchs. You can imagine that you just cut penis from a male, and left two testicles which continue to produce large amounts of sex hormones, but he had no way to release his strong sex desire, how much pain he would suffer! So you can understand why several researchers have written that FGM does not necessarily destroy sexual desire in women, just let them living death.

In essence, FGM is making women to be female eunuchs. I have to admire that person with so sinister intention who invented FGM thousands of years ago. If we say that cutting the testicles in males is because we should reduce the male libido, and cutting testicles and penis, like Chinese eunuchs, at the same time is because we should eliminate male libido and orgasm ability from the roots together, we have to say that only cutting female clitoris, while remaining ovary is because we just need incomplete woman who never can get shudder of climax, and only to be male sex slaves and reproductive tool willingly. In order to seem fair, they concocted MC, so women achieve psychological balance, and deceived by such selfish and shameless behavior. How vicious intentions! Unfortunately, some fueled people concoct that the women should and must get orgasm through vagina under the name of sciences. Here is a paradox in logic. How should we define the Rape, if women can get orgasm through the vagina? You can imagine that I am a male, and I am very very good at penetration on female vagina. Does that mean I can rape any woman I want, because I can give every woman orgasm through my best penetration? Any sense of feeling is from within, and it is stupid to depend on others’ alms. John Stuart Mill said that “women are actually worse in their conditions than slaves, because men expect women even love, rather than just obedience, at least from slaves they don’t expect love.” Historically, the first mention of male and female circumcision appears in the writings by the Greek geographer Strabo, who visited Egypt around 25 BC. Look at these countries with cradle of civilization, like Ancient Egypt, India, Babylon and China, who ever had glorification of the past history, today they still use the ignorance and lies to strengthen authoritarian ruling, their vulnerable old civilization is already far behind of modern west civilization now.

Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. Stay with us, lord. I like the words in “Deep Blue Sea” very much.

2013年1月3日星期四

胡虏无百年之运!

桂冠英雄

我为爱而生 我为爱而活

为一个梦 我压不扁也打不倒

我为爱狂傲 我为爱谦卑

爱我的国 我的家和我爱的人

把桂冠给你 把光荣给你

我知道英雄走的路有多漫长

我知道你要 我知道我要

新的世界

这次US之行是彻底的失败了,但我相信谎言可以骗所有人于一时,也可以骗一些人于一世,但不可能骗所有人于一世。现在的我只感到无尽的悲哀,无论是对中国人还是对女人,鲁迅先生说的一句话“人生最大的痛苦是梦醒了,却发现无路可走。”

2013年1月2日星期三

Bye了芝加哥,bye了美国

终于到了北京首都国际机场了,今天的AA187航班空空如也,上座率不足20%,以后大家可以再11月底去美国玩吧,这样人少真的很好,在作为上可以躺下,这样感觉时间过得特别快。
谁说是在芝加哥安检的时候收走I94表格下半页的?我特地问了美国安全人员,他说是在登记口由AA航空人员收走。我也纳闷了,我的护照上面只有进入美国的时间,和在北京的出、入境章子,是不是少了一个美国的章子?我也没有弄懂。刚刚上网查了果然美国出境不用盖章,只用交I94表格,吓死我了。
登机时,特地拍了芝加哥的夜景,嗨,真是命中注定的,早上来到芝加哥,晚上离开芝加哥。再见了U.S..也许不会有下次了,我去芝加哥的时候,在飞机上吃饭的时候,满心期待的每次都要西餐,这次回来听见客服大妈问我“Noodles or Pizza”,我毫不犹豫的选择了Noodles,说实话我听见“Pizza”这个词我就想吐了。在美国沃尔玛的Pizza好便宜啊,大约3$多点就能买一个很大了。我第一次在飞机上把饭都给吃的光光的,太他妈的好吃了,虽然米饭是夹生的,中间更本没有熟,还是硬硬的,但是我还是狼吞虎咽的吃个精光。太想吃中餐了,在美国别的都无所谓,就是这个吃饭太让人头疼了,回来了一定让老妈好好地给我补补。

今天太激动鸟,回国一个月都不能上Blogger,用尽了所有办法,都不行。今天终于可以上了,我快被气疯了,写Blogger 可能用2个星期写一篇,MD发表用一个月FQ。

2012年11月23日星期五

购物,购物,还是购物 倒数第三天

今天是Black friday,我起了大早去买东西,早就在网上看好了,我5:40就起床了,顺着Fullerton Ave 先往西,在顺着Halsted St 一路向南杀去,到了North Ave,一路小跑,6:05就到了AE了,买了3件衣服,电视上经常说感恩节人很多人大采购,其实大早上没有那么多的人出来,只不过后来我下午在去Downtown的时候,去Gap,Mall的时候人特别多。这就应了一句话,早起的鸟儿有食吃嘛。本来还想看看ON,但是已经6:40了,因为床位还没有确定,所以我给先赶回去吃早饭,如果还没有床位的话就要Check out 了,结果很幸运的得到了一张床位。不到8点我又急匆匆的出门了,要去给老宋买机子了,答应她的,去看看吧 ,是否有特价。老宋真的很走运,原件499的机子,现价349,加上一块电池和一个包外加税总共472$.

五大湖(GreatLakes)是位于加拿大与美国交界处的几座大型淡水湖泊,按面积从大到小分别为:苏必利尔湖(LakeSuperior)、休伦湖(LakeHuron)、密歇根湖(LakeMichigan)、伊利湖(LakeErie)和安大略湖(LakeOntario)。除密歇根湖属于美国之外,其它四湖为加拿大和美国共有。这五个湖泊所组成的五大湖是世界上最大的淡水水域,总面积达245,660平方公里,有北美洲地中海之称。

不得不说芝加哥的天气真的不好,城市的中心位于东部靠近密西根湖,有千禧公园和林肯公用 ,在城市的西部就是工业区了,我站在海滩边,往东北部望去就是天气瓦蓝的,往西南Downtown去就是黑压压的乌云。而且芝加哥的风可真大啊,我还算走运穿了一件风衣来美国,我在中国都很少遭遇这样大的风,像我这样可以接受任何严酷天气考验的人,都不得不倒着走路来减少风刮在脸上的痛。By the way, 芝加哥的中国人真的很多啊,我这里说的是中国人,不是华人,在Michigan大道上,几乎5mins就能听见标准的国语,我个人觉得他们不是美国人。

明天还可以玩一天,还是老规矩,早睡早起,明天准备去跑步去,顺着海滩往南跑到千禧公园,后天晚上就要离开美国了。